Understanding the Filipina and the Cultural Issues
Plan for Your Future: Filipinos are intelligent
and industrious. We hope that you utilize us before you get into an emotionally
troubling situation. We also realize that most you are already there by the time
you start considering using our services. Many will spend many dollars only to
find out they have been scammed. At this point they will either give up or try
again. Most likely they will try again as they miss the one they fell in love
with that got away. Go slow and use your logic or else you may find yourself in
a vicious and expensive cycle of finding only the scammers.
Scenario 1:
After you've met her and you are starting (or have) fallen for her, she tells
you about her kid(s), whether married or not. She has already caught you. Now
they are your problem too. You start supporting your extended family, and you
have probably never met her in person. I am going to repeat this over and over
again. DO NOT START SENDING MONEY! This is information you needed up front and
she did not disclose it as she wanted your emotions first. Once you 'love' someone you tend to believe all her explanations
and even support them and make excuses for her actions. I am a very hard
realist. You need someone who is not emotionally attached to help you by doing
the necessary background checks, or at the very least someone who understands
this culture. We are hardened by the realities of this
country. This country is full of Filipinas making a good living off of soft
hearted foreigners. These girls are not all bad and can make the best wife you
will ever find. Its finding the right one that is difficult and the scammers give the
genuine Filipina a very bad undeserved reputation. The only problem is (as I see
it) the bad outnumber the good by many times. Of course, your Filipina is one of
the good ones. It is so easy for us foreigners to fall for a beautiful Asian
girl half our age. Its also exciting.
Scenario 2:
She discloses that her annulment is not complete or that she needs to get
one from her first (or first and second) husband. You send the money. It is not
easy, cheap, or quick, to get an annulment. Be careful! Will the money actually
go for the annulment? Plan on $4000 to $5500 to get an annulment. Your Filipina
can actually get an annulment for about $1600 if she does it herself. It may take 2-4 years though. Securing an
annulment is not an automatic, guaranteed, or an easy task. We can refer you to
attorneys who will get the annulment done in a reasonable amount of time.
Handing over a large sum of money (all the amounts above are large to a
Filipino) is risky business. Will the money go for the annulment? You need to
interact and you need to be the one that deals with the attorney. We suggest
that you do not use a lawyer that she finds. Most likely she has no experience
dealing with lawyers, courts, and the system in general. Do not take her
recommendations.
Scenario 3:
She is just a scammer. Seeing how this is such an educated country, but mostly
in poverty, people here will do anything to survive. She could have ten of you
out there and do it very well, living a fine life here. As I sat in my car
waiting for my wife to come out of a health spa the other night I was across the
street from an internet cafe. I watched as girls came out and went in with there
manila folder of contacts. I also watched couples go to the door with arms
around each other. He would typically stay out and have a cigarette or two
before entering. She was making connections with her 'catch'. He would than go
sit to the side of her and watch her in action. What really irritated me was
some of these guys had more expensive cars than I. I also watched as a mother
and child, and father, emerged from the cafe. I don't care if you've been here
before or not. We live here and see it every day.
Read This: Do yourself a favor and read all of this site. I don't know of anyone else who would (or could?) live here, and yet it has become my home. Others want to tell you about all the good things as that is what we want to hear. I tell it all from my perspective, the good, the bad, and the real ugly. We do not operate an introduction service or dating service. We do not maintain mailing lists so fear not. I am too busy in life to bother people who don't want unsolicited emails and if you email us for any reason we do not share the your email address with anyone. We don't even keep it on file unless we have an active conversation going on with you. Maybe you are not looking to live here, you just want to find a good partner for life. Read on and we will help you, even if you don't contribute monetarily to us. Do tell others about us as this is the 'No Bull' site about the Philippines.
